Due to the high response from my previous blog post, I decided to do a PART 2 about the "relationship" topic with a subtopic on 'stereotype'. (hmmm maybe I should publish a book hahaha)

Okay so stereotyping affects our relationship? To be honest, Yes. Why did I said so? Guys, imagine this. 

You met a girl from a club. You think that she's hot, caught your attention. You approached her, had fun together, dance together etc. Your friends saw and start asking "Wah, new girl ah?" What would you answer?

"Aiya, girls from club CANNOT ONE LA! play only" is this what you would say? If yes, what is this? STEREOTYPE. She might be the one who'll treat you better than anyone else and she's just having fun in the club because she's single, she just wanna enjoy the music and hangout with her friends, there's nothing better to do on a Friday night, and she ended up in the club; Suddenly, she saw you, think that you're cute, you had the same feelings too BUT you choose to treat her like a party girl that you just wanna have a short term excitement with. Please.

Why can't you just treat her like a normal girl instead of "a-girl-I-know-in-club". Same goes to Tinder matches. Does this mean that you can just treat a girl that you know from Tinder as if she's a "Tinderella" because of your stereotype that all girls on Tinder are one of a kind? Okay there might be girls who are really like that but I personally think that you shouldn't start stereotyping first before you even get to know her. The fundamental rights that must not be neglected between human is mutual respect. So why must we stereotype someone from where you met him/her? Don't you feel sad if you met someone you really like and this is the response you heard from them? The ending might be in a different direction when we stop stereotyping. AND if you chose to date them and yet your relationship end up bad I SWEAR THAT THIS IS NOT BECAUSE OF WHERE YOU MET THEM. It'll end up the same shit no matter how you met this same person. Don't put the blame other stuffs. It doesn't mean that you can put this into the next person you met.

REMEMBER. An asshole will still be an asshole even if you guys met in the library/church/coffee shop. It won't change the fact. 

I can't say that stereotyping is wrong, because I stereotype too. But what the message I wanna convey is "Stereotyping does harm our relationship between human beings and we should try not doing it so often. Get to know that person before drawing a conclusion" It doesn't matter where we met because that really mean nothing. You expect every single person in club, on Tinder, are all the same? Don't be silly. 

We really cant blame ourselves from stereotyping too, because our experience taught us so.

"Just because the past didn't turn out like you wanted it to, doesn't mean your future can't be better than you ever imagined"

Don't lose hope. Hold on,

X.O.X.O

This post is dedicated to all of us in this generation, especially girls. Whereas in case if any guys are reading this, I hope you're not doing this.

Dating seems to be so different than how it used to be. We can date several people and still unable to find someone who genuinely care about us. Girls generally put in more feelings into a relationship. Fall easily to certain kind of feelings where we think that the guy cares about you and made you feel special but in fact they might be doing this to plenty of girls. One day if they stop doing it we'll eventually feel shitty about ourselves and start feeling insecure about everything. Guys will think that we are too naive, we think too much...but why in the first place it's YOU that made us feel special and yet you just leave when you feels that the girl starts to attach onto you.

The problems about this is because we all think that there's much more choices out there and when we try to seek for more options, we lose someone. The older I get, the harder I think it is to find a right one. 

Dear guys, please don't be a fuckboy if you could. You might hurt a girl's feeling. Maybe you already know this. Maybe you enjoy this feeling. BUT seriously, if a girl doesn't tell you that they're hurt, it doesn't mean that they aren't. They might be just strong enough to play it cool but deep inside...it really does something to them. No matter how strong a woman is, they'll still need someone who cares about them. Guys, no matter how playful you are, it's always better when you know that there's actually someone who cares about you and will be there for you when you needed them so please don't be so heartless. If you didn't plan to make them stay, don't make them stay for you :)

"Am I not worth it?" " Not good enough?"  "I did something wrong?"  "Why did they do this to me?" "I've tried my very best?"  "Why things changed all of a sudden? " all these might come across our mind, but we'll never ask. This is because we shouldn't. As we know that they hold no responsibilities in our feelings. They'll run further if you do so. Yeah. Modern dating. We protect ourselves before getting into some trouble and we'll start avoiding it. 

Saw this and it kinda broke my heart and yet it applies to many of us out there. I really hope that dating could be as cute as those high school relationships where we used to do. Going out for a movie, holding hands, little surprises, commitments, promises....

Girls, do you ever feel dumb? So dumb that you can't differentiate a good guy and a good-in-acting guy? You're also unsure what will a guy does when he likes you? IF YES, you're not the only one because this happened to me too. I never give up on trying...but the more I tried, the more hope I lose. Maybe I did it in a wrong way. Maybe I portrayed an image that I'll be fine. It's okay. I believe that there's someone out there who deserve our love. Be patient. 

Good luck girls. For the guys who respect girls, I respect you too. Keep it up because you made this world a better place :) Thanks for not being a jerk.

Love doesn't hurt. It is the person who doesn't know what love is hurts you.- Tony Gaskins

With love and blessings to all of you out there,

X.O.X.O