Just recently I read an article about "leaving your friends out of your relationships" which I can totally relate with and I agree that we shouldn't share too much to our friends. Lesson learned. Generally speaking I really do not get what they think because I personally won't act such way if similar things happened so I never expected these. I even got feedbacks from "friends" like "you're just using us; you don't really need us" wow. It hurts. It's like when you're eager to tell them how you feel and they expect you to do what they advise too because it's "appreciating them" if you do so. That kind of negativity and drama is what I can't deal with anymore at this age.

You can check it out here  https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/leave-your-friends-out-of-your-relationships



A good friend doesn't mean it's a good-for-you friend if they doesn't know how to understand you in certain ways. And it's true is the smaller your close social circle is, the better it is. One or two friends in the circle might be truly sincere to u but if it comes in a package, troubles might occur. They're friends who'll always be there no matter how rare you guys meet and there's friends you think you've known very long and they'll just put you down when you show your weaknesses to them. Duration of friendship can't define anything as everyone grows up eventually.

If you're been following me on my social media, you'll probably know how heartbroken I was because of my last relationship. TBH even though my ex has his own bad attitude or temper but I am absolutely fine with it & able to tolerate it too because I love him thattttttt much. It's absolutely not because I don't love myself, it's because I see the good in him too but unfortunately I signed up to this "rant-to-ur-friends-to-feel-better" thingy as this was my legit serious relationship and obviously they'll think what they do or say is for the sake of my own good.

In fact I know myself better, I just want a place to rant. No matter how pissed I was when I rant about him, I got instant happiness just by seeing him every time (knowing that this wouldn't happen anymore is what upset me the most). Each and every time I complained I was not actually expecting any help but some take it as "saving" or "helping" me because they CARE. If your help or advice isn't working it doesn't mean that you're a bad friend too. So, play your own part. Don't blame or make anyone responsible for disappointing your own expectations. Worst case, don't blame anyone if you're being oversensitive. We are all responsible in our own life. I did my own mistakes too. We all do. Life isn't perfect but it'll be a good experience. Afterall we're just human who learn from mistakes right?

I've gotten to the level where I no longer feel sad when these kind of friends leave because I think it's quite pointless to explain our actions and constantly feeling insecure about expressing myself. Everything happens for a reason. Just live your life happily and those who really care about you will genuinely feel happy for us too!


Things I've recently learned:

• Eliminate negative people and the 'DOUBTERS' in life. They're unhealthy for you. 
• Rant less, DO more.
• Learn how to handle my emotions. It got better I guess
• Be more independent. Mentally & financially.
• Have time for yourself even when you have a partner to love. 
• Love myself better so they could see the worth in me. Be positive.
• Be yourself, be sincere, be happy.

When we grew older, we'll see clearer what kind of "friends" we have around. Those who can truly understand and always be by your side is not necessarily who you think. Those who forgot what you did when they're at the worst & not considerate enough to tolerate with you when you're not at your best are just bullshxxs. We don't need "friends" who take sides easily. We don't need people that spoils your mood constantly so we need to eliminate some of that in life. God bless.